Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Thoughtful Thursday: Love

One of our Engagement Pictures!

Look at me go! Day 3 and I'm still going strong with my posts :)
I have been working on being a better wife. During pregnancy, I felt like I had a big break from wifely duties- things like cleaning, cooking, at times my attitude, amongst other things. Well, now that I'm back on my feet, and my hormones aren't raging, I really want to get back on track. I LOVE my husband. He really is so good to me and deserves the extra effort on my end to show him that love. There are a lot of times though where I feel like I lose my way and just do a generally crappy job at showing him. Here are some things I'm doing in trying to be BETTER:
  • Be Pleasant. By the end of the day, I'm at the end of my rope. I take pride in making sure the house looks nice, dinner is made, and things are going relatively smooth- but my attitude doesn't always scream peaceful or "I'm glad to see you honey!". And lets be honest, sometimes we just have bad days, and believe me, I KNOW that's okay. But if every day I strive toward a good attitude and friendly demeanor, I'm bound to only miss the mark occasionally- and occasionally is good :)

  • Be interested in him. I know that as a woman, I can surely rattle on about my day and all the things that have irritated or frustrated me, along with all the good things. But sometimes I forget to ask about him. Was his work day good? Did anything cool happen? Is there anything I could do for him to make his night more relaxing? It's easy to make things all about me, so it's these things that I need to be intentional about.

  • Take interest in what he likes or is excited about. What this looks like for me, is getting on board with him. One practical example is our budget right now. We are pretty fired up about paying the rest of our student loans off, and he gets excited when we have a little extra money left over from our budget to make our debt pay off for that month even more. I'm pretty loose when it comes to this- I'm just happy if we stick with our budget in the first place! But recently I have tried sacrificing a little more- not making a stop at a fast food place even though I want to and have the money, or figuring out what I already have in my fridge to make dinner with and having to buy one less meal. And I already know that this makes him really happy, but I have to admit that I have actually really enjoyed it too! Makes me feel like I'm really contributing. Funny how God made it work that way- when we try to do things that make our spouse happy, it makes us happy as well :)

  • Affection. This looks like a lot of things. More smiling, more hugging, sometimes affirming words, or a nudge in our bedrooms direction ;) Sorry mom or dad if you're reading this! - But all of those things are super important to keep at the forefront of my mind. I know that there are definitely days where I feel completely drained in every way from taking care of daily stuff, but I think that it's really important to keep the fire going! Trying to capture the same admiration and love that we had for eachother when we first fell in love and continue to just make that grow :)

Those are just a few things that I'm trying to stay focused on right now. It's crazy how this is just one compartment of my life. There's also being a mom, a friend, a sister, a neighbor, a witness, a daughter, etc...each one seems like it should be a full time job to master! There is always something to work on :)

Love, Krystle

1 comment:

Mrs. Southern said...

I'm trying to do that exact thing right now as a stay at home mom too! I know there will be bad days but if I can welcome my husband home with a clean house, dinner and a good attitude it's much better than coming home to a screaming toddler, a barking dog and a moody wife. Thanks for sharing and making me feel normal! :)